When autism parents kill–it has to do with hope

As a parent of twins with autism, I know what it’s like to feel desperate and alone. I know how it feels to have doors close and be left with no one to help carry the load. Professionals go home to their families, most don’t have any idea what it’s like to live with the turmoil. They get to sleep through the night without worrying if their child will harm themselves or wander off. Maybe you’re reading this and you have a child with autism. Like me, you probably think you’d never entertain the thought of murdering your child, no matter how desperate your feel. But we have to remember that our experience with autism isn’t another parent’s experience. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not condoning murder in any way shape or form. I think I’m trying to understand the emotions that drive someone to do such a thing. And I do get it. I do. When you are screaming for help and no one comes, you feel backed into a dark corner of no hope. I believe it’s loss of hope that causes parents to kill their disabled children. At least, I think that’s what happened in the case of Dorothy Spourdalakis who murdered her severely autistic son, Alex Spourdalakis, age 14, last year. (You can read the story here.  It’s compelling. Sad. And too often a common story regarding severely autistic children.) But in the case of Gigi Jordan, I’m not so sure. In that case it appears it was a selfish act. Or was it? Could it be true that she killed her son in order to protect him from an abusive father? It certainly can’t be true that she couldn’t obtain services for the child. She’s a millionaire. If she couldn’t obtain services, then who can? Cases like this are just one reason I was prompted to write a book about autism (My book, Autism: Practical Help and Spiritual Hope for Parents, will be available in April 2015). Parents need to know there is definitely hope in this journey. Hope doesn’t make the road easier, but it makes it bearable. Autism isn’t who my children are. It’s a name of a disability that causes significant challenges in socialization, speech and behavior. All people with disabilities are precious. planned for and valuable to God. As much as I love my children, I know that God loves them even more, and He has a plan and purpose for their life. I sincerely believe that if we pray and ask God to send us help to cope, and what services to access, He open the doors. At least, that’s what He’s always done for me. As I wrote...

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Atheist Dawkins: Aborting babies with Down Syndrome is the moral thing to do

I can’t stop thinking about an article I wrote for Examiner a few days ago. As a Special Needs Kids Examiner and a college student working toward a degree in Special Education, I have access to the latest news regarding disabilities. When I read about Richard Dawkins tweeting that children with Down Syndrome should be aborted, I was incensed. According to him, it is the moral thing to do because they have nothing to contribute. Click to read the article I wrote. But that’s the problem, isn’t it? If one doesn’t believe in a God Who lovingly created humans in His Own Image, then life is nothing more than random cells. Humans are their own gods with the authority to decide who lives and dies. As I wrote in my new book, Autism, (Due out April 2015), I’ve met spiritual giants while working with people with disabilities. I think we’re going to be very surprised in Heaven when we meet our cognitively disabled brothers and sisters in their perfect bodies. Oh, what great conversations we’ll have then! The following video chokes me up every single time I watch it. It says it all, I think. This life isn’t about being perfect (whatever that is because perfection is relative). Life is about love. And if you’ve ever known someone with Down Syndrome, you’ve known real, tangible love. Click to tweet: Prenatal testing cannot predict love.     Make your way over to my Facebook page for a chance to win a $25 gift card from Amazon! I love hearing from you. Do you know anyone with Down Syndrome? I’d love to hear all about...

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