Lies Strong Girls refuse to believe


There are a lot of lies out there. But just because they exist doesn’t mean we have to believe them. From the beginning of time the enemy, Satan, has been lying to women, twisting God’s Words and causing them to doubt Truth.

Here are some lies that flow through today’s culture. Lies you don’t have to believe.

Lies a Strong Girl stands up to and dares to defy:

  1. It doesn’t matter who your friends are.
  2. It doesn’t matter how you dress–fashion is more important than modesty.
  3. It’s okay to talk trash about people behind their backs.
  4. It’s okay to use profanity.
  5. Pretty girls/women are more worthy or “I’m not pretty enough.”
  6. Skinny girls/women are more worthy or “I’m not skinny enough.”
  7. Only girls/women who have a boyfriend are worthy.
  8. Your value is based upon how many friends you have on Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram (you get the picture…)
  9. It doesn’t matter what music I listen to or movies I watch.
  10. It doesn’t matter what I post online.
  11. It doesn’t matter what I text.
  12. It’s okay to experiment with sex as long as it’s not intercourse.
  13. You can hate your parents or other family members and friends and still be a Christian.
  14. The most important thing in life is to have fun.
  15. Being sexy is more important than being modest.
  16. Education isn’t important or “I’m not smart enough.”
  17. It doesn’t matter how you earn your money just as long as you have the latest gadget or fad.
  18. You’ll never keep a boyfriend unless you have sex with him.
  19. I’m stuck and the only way out is to do something against what I believe.
  20. I’ll never have a friend I can trust.

Through the next few weeks, I’ll be addressing these lies and what our response should be to them.

What lies have you been told?


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Strong Girls Saturday: Helping trafficked women and teens


No matter how strong a girl is, bad things happen. One of those bad things is human trafficking. Here are some statistics found on the Covering House website:

  • Human trafficking generates $9.5 billion yearly in the United States. (United Nations)
  • Approximately 300,000 children are at risk of being prostituted in the United States. (U.S. Department of Justice)
  • The average age of entry into prostitution for a child victim in the United States is 13-14 years old. (U.S. Department of Justice)
  • A pimp can make $150,000-$200,000 per child each year and the average pimp has 4 to 6 girls. (U.S. Justice Department, National Center for Missing and Exploited Children)
  • The average victim may be forced to have sex up to 20-48 times a day. (Polaris Project)
  • Fewer than 100 beds are available in the United States for underage victims. (Health and Human Services)
  • Department Of Justice has identified the top twenty human trafficking jurisdictions in the country:” Houston• El Paso• Los Angeles• Atlanta• Chicago• Charlotte• Miami• Las Vegas• New York• Long Island• New Orleans• Washington, D.C.• Philadelphia• Phoenix• Richmond• San Diego• San Francisco• St Louis• Seattle• Tampa  (Department of Justice)
  • A pimp can make $150,000-$200,000 per child each year and the average pimp has 4 to 6 girls. (U.S. Justice Department, National Center for Missing and Exploited Children)
  • One in three teens on the street will be lured toward prostitution within 48 hours of leaving home. (National Runaway Hotline)

Teenage Problems, Social Issues and Bullying

To learn more about what you can do to help stop sex trafficking, check out these links:

In Your Light

Safe Horizon

Kim Purcell, author

Love 146

La Strada International

Salvation Army


Strong Girls make contributions to this world to make it a better, safer, kinder place. This is why we need Strong Girls. This is why we mustn’t allow ourselves to be victims. Others need our strength.

What will you do today to build your strong girl muscles?


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Hey, Strong Girl, how much are you worth?


“But I was lonely, and he was there, so one thing led to another and…”

Just because you’re lonely doesn’t mean you aren’t still a Strong Girl. Everyone gets lonely. I imagine Jesus did, too.

But no one, absolutely NO ONE has a right to your body just because they ask.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 says:

Do you not know that your body is the temple (the very sanctuary) of the Holy Spirit Who lives within you, Whom you have received [as a Gift] from God? You are not your own, You were bought with a price [purchased with a preciousness and paid for, made His own]. So then, honor God and bring glory to Him in your body. (Amplified Bible.)


God loves your body so much that He bought it with the blood of His Son, Jesus. Really. Jesus died on the cross for YOU. If you were the only person in the world, He’d do that for YOU. You are that precious to Him.

Now, maybe nobody’s ever told you before that you’re that precious. But every single hair of your head is numbered by God. That’s in the Bible, too in Luke 12:7. Jesus was telling His disciples not to worry about money and clothes because if God loves the little sparrows and watches them, then He watches, people even closer.

And He knows how many hairs are on our head!


Do you know how many hairs you have? Does your Mother? Father? Anyone?

Nope. But God does. Now, if God knows how many hairs are on your head, imagine how He watches you ever so closely.

The God Who created everything — mountains, trees, seeds that grow into plants, little tadpoles and butterflies. That same amazing God loves you enough to count the hairs on your head.


Next time you are tempted to give yourself away just because you’re lonely, think first about how lonely God is for you to say “hello” to Him. Start having conversations with Him everyday as you go to school, ride the bus, or whatever you’re doing. Develop a close relationship with Him and He will become more and more real to you with each passing day. He promises that if you look for Him, you will find Him.

If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me. Jeremiah 29:13, NLT.


So now that you know that God knows how many hairs your have on your head, how much are you worth, Strong Girl? Do you think you should give yourself away for free? Or do you think you’re worth the wait?

If you develop a relationship with God, does that mean you’ll never be lonely? Nope. You’ll still get lonely, dear daughter. But you will have the strength to overcome that loneliness by focusing on Him. And if you ask Him, He’ll show you how to get past that loneliness.

No one will ever love you like He does. No one. Not even your parents. And certainly not a sexual partner or boyfriend. That emptiness you’re trying to fill is a God space that can only be filled with Him.

Seek Him–the One that loves you most. You are priceless to Him. That’s how much you’re worth.

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Strong doesn’t mean you’ll never cry


In the dictionary strong is defined as being “able to withstand great force or pressure.”

There’s no doubt girls and women are under great forces and pressure these days. Everywhere we turn there are sexual messages. Movies, commercials, TV shows, magazines all send a message to women that they are valued more for their looks and sexuality than they are for their intellect, talent or character.

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Source: MTV

How does a Strong Girl value herself for what God says she is without feeling the pressure from the world’s messages?

The Bible says in Psalm 46:1 that God is our refuge and strength. To be a Strong Girl in Jesus, means to run to HIM for that strength.

On our own, we’re weak and at times foolish. We can let thoughts overpower us. But if we submit our minds to the Lord, He will strengthen us with HIS resolve. HIS strength. We build our life on the ROCK of His wisdom, His strength, and we are wise, not foolish. Remember this little song we sang in Sunday School?

You see, God is never weary. He is always strong. And if you have Jesus in you, you have HIS power and strength.

Isaiah 40: 29-31 says that God gives POWER to the faint and STRENGTH to those who have none. “Even the youths shall faint and be weary , and the young men shall utterly fall : But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run , and not be weary ; and they shall walk , and not faint.”

All you have to do is ask. And then listen for His voice.

Often we are in too much of a hurry to wait on the Lord to keep us strong. We want to run ahead and do it our way.

And anytime we run our way and not God’s way, we can expect disastrous results.


If we believe what a man or boy promises us when wanting us to do something above what God says for us to do, we can expect to get hurt. Sure, God is there with His grace to forgive our mistakes, but we still have consequences on this earth. Pregnancy, STDs, a broken heart, memories that haunt us. God’s advice to us isn’t to keep us from having fun, but to give us a happy life without as much heartache.

If we believe what the world tells us instead of what God tells us, we can expect to be deceived.

But if we believe what God tells us, we’ll experience much less pain. Living in this world is hard enough without us making it even harder.

From the beginning of the time the enemy–Satan–has hated women. “Did God REALLY say you couldn’t eat that fruit?”


He twists God’s words. And he still does it today.

God’s grace is so full of love that He wants nothing but the best for you. When you really grasp how much you are loved by God, you will run to that source of Strength and let it fill you up. You will have no desire for the kind of acceptance the world gives. All you’ll want is to be full of HIM. All you’ll care about is pleasing HIM because he loves you SO MUCH!

752a68152b266de82bdaddb7da574c46People will fail you. I can guarantee it. They will hurt you, disappoint you, and betray you.

But God never will.

Strong doesn’t mean you’ll never cry. You will still cry. Jesus wept. And He was one strong dude while He walked on this earth. Strong means you admit you’re weak without HIM, and need HIS strength to carry you through.

Cry out to Him when you’re in need of strength. I promise He will answer. More than that, HE promises, too.

Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all ye that hope in the Lord. Psalm 31:24

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Strong Girl Saturday: Strong and pretty are not opposites


On Saturdays I’ll be blogging about being a Strong Girl. While I’ll be speaking to a female audience of all ages, my main focus, initially, will be on young women finding their way in this world with Jesus. We’ll answer hard questions and discuss things that might be a little uncomfortable to talk about with parents, or parents to talk about with their daughters.


In my 32 years of experience as a Sunday School teacher and youth leader, I’ve seen too many girls value themselves only for what their bodies can offer a boy, or in today’s sexually charged climate, another girl. I’ve seen too many girls who see themselves as weak instead of strong. I see girls who are insecure as they search for who they are, and girls who just have a hard time believing that Jesus is really there for them.

Teenage Problems, Social Issues and Bullying

While recovering from a major surgery (that has required a lot of strength!), I stumbled upon a TV show about women taking men to court to prove they are the father of their children. Woman after woman stepped up to the witness stand and laid out her indiscretions on a calendar for the whole world to see on satellite television.


Now, we’ve all made mistakes. Don’t get me wrong. I’m thankful these women chose to have their children instead of aborting them. But the numbers of partners these women have within the span of a few weeks is startling.

It makes me mad.

At the destroyer.

The one who beats girls down and convinces them they are no more than a sexual object and that sex equals love. The one that convinces them that they have no value unless they are in the arms of a boy or man.

Girls, if you don’t get anything I ever write, get this: you are not what anyone says you are. You are what God says you are.

And we will explore just exactly what it is He says you are.



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I’ve created a facebook page where we strong girls can hang out and chat about what makes us strong, how to stand strong, stay strong, and ask questions here:

Until next Saturday,


PS Leave me your questions in the comments below and I will answer them!