I hear it all the time.
A parent gets overwhelmed and they kill their child with a disability because one more day is just too much.
Kelli Stapleton, age 45 of Michigan, wrote on her blog, The Status Woe, in September: “I have to admit that I’m suffering from a severe case of battle fatigue.”
It was on this blog that she vented about the challenges of raising her 14-year-old daughter, Isabelle, who has a diagnosis of autism and a history of violent outbursts. Something went wrong with her school program and it made things worse.
Why did something go wrong with the school program?
One of the reasons I want my degree in special education is because I have insight as a parent of special needs children.
When will the schools realize that SAMENESS is one of the most important factors in educating students with autism? Especially severe autism? And especially severe autism in the teen years?
Later that day, this Mom and her daughter were found unconscious from carbon monoxide poisoning in a van in which charcoal was burned with the windows all closed. The child survived and Mom is now in jail awaiting trial.
I’m not condoning her actions. But I understand what it’s like to lose hope. It’s the worst feeling in the world. You can’t think straight after being pummeled by your child day in and day out with no end in sight. There just isn’t enough support for parents in this country. We love our children. We love having them with us in our home. But where is the support?
School is not enough.
Kelli’s friends are blogging for her now on her blog, and raising money for her legal fees.
And a beautiful blog post about this situation is here: A Line in the Sand. It says so well all that I wanted to say here but couldn’t find the words as my heart breaks for this child and her mother.
Please read it. Even if you have no interest in special needs families. Read it and learn. There are hurting people out there and you just might be an answer to their prayer.