16Jan

Because of autism in this family

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Autism looks different in every family because autism is different in every person. My experience with autism is unique and different from my friend’s experience with her son with autism. There are similarities, yes. The frustration, and the damage to our sons’ brains is the same. But her son exhibits behaviors my sons don’t and vice versa. Raising identical twins with autism definitely had (and has) challenges. They are almost 22-years-old now, and many of these challenges have integrated so much into our daily lives, that I forget other families don’t live like we do. (Yes, the twins still live at home with us.) Because of autism, I have numeric key pad doorknobs on my bedroom and office doors. This is because autism in this house loves to rifle through closests and drawers. Most of the time it results in something being broken or ruined. It only took us 21 years to finally install locks. I don’t know why we waited so long. It has solved so many problems. Why a keyless entry? They can pick locks or twist the doorknob hard enough to get in. Also, keyless keeps me from having to carry a key with me all the time. Because of autism, my expensive watch (a gift from my husband) was broken the other day because I left it in the kitchen after removing it for doing dishes. Autism tried to wear it. A 22-year-old man’s wrist is a lot larger than mine. And I have exceptionally small wrists. I don’t know when I’ll ever have the time or money to get that watch fixed. Because of autism, I can’t leave my laundry basket in the laundry room when washing clothes. I have to lock my clothes up in my bedroom and take them load by load to the laundry room. Then, I have to guard the dryer very carefully so that nothing gets stolen. Autism loves the sensory input Mom’s soft, warm clothes provide. Because of autism, my husband and I can’t go anywhere alone because the twins can’t be left unsupervised. If they are, they could rifle through every drawer, eat every morsel of food in the fridge, or worse, burn the house down (they are fascinated with candles and, well, fire). Plus, if you’ve ever had twins, you know the nuclear fallout sibling rivalry can cause. They don’t know their strength. They are the best of buds when things are going well. But you never know when a fight over the remote can erupt into a firestorm. (There’s that fire thing again…) And yes. Sometimes? Autism sucks. But beause of autism, I get to laugh every single day at the funny things that happen. Like the times we ask the twins to drive their golf cart to the store (close to home) to get something and they come back with a very literal load of something. If you send them for five bananas, they’ll come home with five bunches of bananas. If you send them for a large can of something, they’ll return with a gallon can. Because of autism watching comedy is a lot more fun. Watching them laugh is the best part. They’re the best chortlers. Taking them to the movies is the best. Even people in the theater get a kick...

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11Jan

2017: Progress not perfection

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I gave up on New Year’s resolutions several years ago. But I didn’t give up on choosing a theme or slogan for the year. For 2017 I’ve chosen “Progress not Perfection” as my mantra. This is because I tend toward perfectionism, which is a sin of pride, and also an excuse to procrastinate.  Example:”I can’t get all the laundry done in an hour, so I’ll wait until tomorrow when I have more time. ” Well, no, but I could do one load, right? Am I the only one who puts stuff off this way? Well, if I am, then I’m happy to write to myself because I have room for improvement here. Do you have something you’re putting off because you can’t do it perfectly? There are piles of things I avoid because I’m afraid of not getting them done “just right.” So silly. You’d think I’d approach life the same way I do writing a book. Bite by bite. Little by little. But I’m still learning to eat my elephants one bite at a time. One calorie choice at a time. One workout choice at a time. One household chore at a time. It bugs me when I can’t finish something or can’t see an immediate, lasting result, so I don’t start at all. But that only punishes me and makes me feel down. So, I’m learning to break huge jobs into small steps, just as I do when I write my books. I’m determined to focus on progress instead of perfection. For example, when I’m going to dig into a room to purge and clean it, I divide it into sectors. Then, I set the timer and tell myself, “You can do anything for 15 minutes. Just do it in this one small area.” Usually, I get to 15 minutes and find myself wanting to keep going. Getting started is the hardest part. Are you having trouble getting started on something God is telling you to do? Are you afraid to try because you fear imperfection? Why not join me in 2017 and embrace progress instead? Let me know in the comments below if you’re willing to make this your theme for 2017, too! I’d love to have a progress posse! Tweet this: Is there something you’re putting off? Progress not perfection....

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24Dec

Countdown to Christmas Day 24

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Welcome to Countdown to Christmas Day 24! Tomorrow’s Christmas! Today’s Random Act of Kindness Go to a Christmas Eve Service and give a family a treat. Today’s Scripture, Isaiah 9:2-7, TLB The people who walk in darkness shall see a great Light—a Light that will shine on all those who live in the land of the shadow of death. 3 For Israel will again be great, filled with joy like that of reapers when the harvesttime has come, and like that of men dividing up the plunder they have won. 4 For God will break the chains that bind his people and the whip that scourges them, just as he did when he destroyed the vast host of the Midianites by Gideon’s little band. 5 In that glorious day of peace there will no longer be the issuing of battle gear; no more the bloodstained uniforms of war; all such will be burned. 6 For unto us a child is born; unto us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder. These will be his royal titles: “Wonderful,” “Counselor,” “The Mighty God,” “The Everlasting Father,” “The Prince of Peace.” 7 His ever-expanding, peaceful government will never end. He will rule with perfect fairness and justice from the throne of his father David. He will bring true justice and peace to all the nations of the world. This is going to happen because the Lord of heaven’s armies has dedicated himself to do it! Today’s Song: My Soul Magnifies the Lord   Tweet this: Christmas Eve is a great time to spread random acts of kindness! Leave your comments below and let me know if you’re participating! Have fun and Merry...

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23Dec

Christmas Countdown Day 23

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Welcome to Day 23 of our Christmas Countdown! Today is my Mother-In-Law’s 82nd birthday! Happy Birthday, Ellen! Today’s Random Act of Kindness Do a secret act of kindness. I did one today and it felt awesome. We think doing a kindness only benefits the ones we are kind to, but actually, I beleive it energizes us in ways we can’t comprehend. Not only that, but God sees all we do in secret. I like that. If you’d like all the random acts of kindness in one list, email me and I’ll send you a copy.  Today’s Scripture: John 3:16, TLB For God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son so that anyone who believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. Today’s Song: Winter Storm Tweet this: Join me in spreading secret random acts of kindness! Leave your comments below and let me know if you’re participating! Have fun and Merry...

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22Dec

Countdown to Christmas Day 22

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Welcome to Day 22 of our Christmas Countdown! Today’s Random Act of Kindness Pray for a stranger’s meal or coffee. If you’ve never paid for the person behind you in a drive-through line before, give it a try. You’ll smile all day just thinking about it! If you’d like all the random acts of kindness in one list, email me and I’ll send you a copy.  Today’s Scripture: John 6:48-51, TLB “Yes, I am the Bread of Life! When your fathers in the wilderness ate bread from the skies, they all died. But the Bread from heaven gives eternal life to everyone who eats it. I am that Living Bread that came down out of heaven. Anyone eating this Bread shall live forever; this Bread is my flesh given to redeem humanity.” Today’s Song: Born to Die Tweet this: Who wants to join me in spreading random acts of kindness? Leave your comments below and let me know if you’re participating! Have fun and Merry...

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21Dec

Countdown to Christmas Day 21

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Welcome to Day 21 of our Countdown to Christmas! Today’s Random Act of Kindness Candy Cane bomb a parking lot! I’m so doing this today! Join me! (Okay, so now the NSA will read my blog post because I used the word bomb…) Basically, I’m going to put a candy cane on every car in the parking lots in town. I just wish I’d have had time to attach a little scripture to each one. If you’d like all the random acts of kindness in one list, email me and I’ll send you a copy.  Today’s Scripture: John 10:10, TLB The thief’s purpose is to steal, kill and destroy. My purpose is to give life in all its fullness. Today’s Song: Born that We May Have Life Tweet this: Who will join me today sharing Christmas cheer via a candy cane? Leave your comments below and let me know if you’re participating! Have fun and Merry...

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20Dec

Countdown to Christmas Day 20

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Welcome back! Today is Day 20 of our Christmas Countdown! Today’s Random Act of Kindness Let someone go ahead of you in line. If you’d like all the random acts of kindness in one list, email me and I’ll send you a copy.  Today’s Scripture: John 8: 12-18, TLB Later, in one of his talks, Jesus said to the people, “I am the Light of the world. So if you follow me, you won’t be stumbling through the darkness, for living light will flood your path.” 13 The Pharisees replied, “You are boasting—and lying!” 14 Jesus told them, “These claims are true even though I make them concerning myself. For I know where I came from and where I am going, but you don’t know this about me. 15 You pass judgment on me without knowing the facts. I am not judging you now; 16 but if I were, it would be an absolutely correct judgment in every respect, for I have with me the Father who sent me. 17 Your laws say that if two men agree on something that has happened, their witness is accepted as fact. 18 Well, I am one witness, and my Father who sent me is the other.” Today’s Song: Jesus, Light of the World Tweet this: Can you handle today’s random act of kindness? Leave your comments below and let me know if you’re participating! Have fun and Merry...

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19Dec

Countdown to Christmas Day 19

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Welcome back to Countdown to Christmas Day 19! If you’d like all the random acts of kindness in one list, email me and I’ll send you a copy.  Today’s Random Act of Kindness Send your pastor a funny video! My husband is a pastor, and trust me, pastors need a good giggle now and then. Your pastor would love it if you tickled his funny bone! Here’s one I found particularly funny recently: Today’s Scripture: Isaiah 9:6, TLB For unto us a child is born; unto us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder. These will be his royal titles: “Wonderful,” “Counselor,” “The Mighty God,” “The Everlasting Father,” “The Prince of Peace.” Today’s Song: Tweet this: This random act of kindness will tickle your pastor’s funnybone! Leave your comments below and let me know if you’re participating! Have fun and Merry...

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18Dec

Countdown to Christmas Day 18

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Welcome to Day 18 of our Countdown to Christmas! I love today’s random act of kindness. I love seeing people’s faces when we do this! If you’d like all the random acts of kindness in one list, email me and I’ll send you a copy.  Today’s Random Act of Kindness Give a random person a Christmas ornament! That’s right! Take some ornaments with you to the store and just pass them out. Or just one. You’re going to love people’s reactions! Today’s Scripture: Luke 2:25-35, TLB That day a man named Simeon, a Jerusalem resident, was in the Temple. He was a good man, very devout, filled with the Holy Spirit and constantly expecting the Messiah to come soon. 26 For the Holy Spirit had revealed to him that he would not die until he had seen him—God’s anointed King. 27 The Holy Spirit had impelled him to go to the Temple that day; and so, when Mary and Joseph arrived to present the baby Jesus to the Lord in obedience to the law, 28 Simeon was there and took the child in his arms, praising God. 29-31 “Lord,” he said, “now I can die content! For I have seen him as you promised me I would. I have seen the Savior you have given to the world. 32 He is the Light that will shine upon the nations, and he will be the glory of your people Israel!” 33 Joseph and Mary just stood there, marveling at what was being said about Jesus. 34-35 Simeon blessed them but then said to Mary, “A sword shall pierce your soul, for this child shall be rejected by many in Israel, and this to their undoing. But he will be the greatest joy of many others. And the deepest thoughts of many hearts shall be revealed.” Today’s Song: He is Called Jesus  Tweet This: An ornamental random act of kindness! Leave your comments below and let me know if you’re participating! Have fun and Merry...

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18Dec

Countdown to Christmas Day 17

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Welcome to day 17 of our Countdown to Christmas! Today you’re going to warm up those theatrical skills! Today’s Random Act of Kindness Read a Christmas Story to a Child Naturally, I’d love it if you’d read the story from  Luke 2. It’s my favorite scripture for Christmas.  I even have it memorized because I was chosen to read it two years in a row for our high school Christmas program. Cool, huh? If you’d like all the random acts of kindness in one list, email me and I’ll send you a copy.  Today’s Scripture: Matthew 2:1-11: Jesus was born in the town of Bethlehem, in Judea, during the reign of King Herod. At about that time some astrologers from eastern lands arrived in Jerusalem, asking, 2 “Where is the newborn King of the Jews? for we have seen his star in far-off eastern lands and have come to worship him.” 3 King Herod was deeply disturbed by their question, and all Jerusalem was filled with rumors. 4 He called a meeting of the Jewish religious leaders. “Did the prophets tell us where the Messiah would be born?” he asked. 5 “Yes, in Bethlehem,” they said, “for this is what the prophet Micah wrote: 6 ‘O little town of Bethlehem, you are not just an unimportant Judean village, for a Governor shall rise from you to rule my people Israel.’” 7 Then Herod sent a private message to the astrologers, asking them to come to see him; at this meeting he found out from them the exact time when they first saw the star. Then he told them, 8 “Go to Bethlehem and search for the child. And when you find him, come back and tell me so that I can go and worship him too!” 9 After this interview the astrologers started out again. And look! The star appeared to them again, standing over Bethlehem. 10 Their joy knew no bounds! 11 Entering the house where the baby and Mary, his mother, were, they threw themselves down before him, worshiping. Then they opened their presents and gave him gold, frankincense, and myrrh. 12 But when they returned to their own land, they didn’t go through Jerusalem to report to Herod, for God had warned them in a dream to go home another way. 13 After they were gone, an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream. “Get up and flee to Egypt with the baby and his mother,” the angel said, “and stay there until I tell you to return, for King Herod is going to try to kill the child.” 14 That same night he left for Egypt with Mary and the baby, 15 and stayed there until King Herod’s death. This fulfilled the prophet’s prediction, “I have called my Son from Egypt.” Today’s Song: We Three Kings Tweet This: A story random act of kindness! Leave your comments below and let me know if you’re participating! Have fun and Merry...

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